Wednesday, September 28, 2011

Where Do I Fit In?

SO I recently started thinking about my childhood... Growing up in a not-so diverse part of the country, and always feeling like I never fit in.

See with the African American kids I was too "upity", I spoke like a "white girl"; because I didn't use slang, and I dind't repeat that horrible N-word, I wanted to the white, or act white. With the white kids I always felt the most comfortable, yet I knew I didn't look like them. My culture was completely different then theres, and the way they spoke to and about their parents made me scared for them (my parent's were zero tolerence to disrepect as they should have been).... Oh and the Mexicans, I coudln't understand a word they were saying!

Fast forward about 2 decades, now I'm feeling that way again! Where do I fit in? Where do my children belong? At our play-dates and amongst our friends we're always the minority, will my boys ever pick up that they're different? I don't want them growing up feeling insecure with who they are, because they don't know who they are. Am I worrying too soon? Or am I concerned for a good reason? 

I want so desperately to have friends of my race, and culture, who have the same moral standards and upbringing as I did (WITH CHILDREN OF THEIR OWN); do they exist? The wonderful thing about New England is the all the culture, the horrible thing is all the culture..... Where are the African Americans????

Sunday, September 18, 2011

One Hungry Mama & A Picky Eatting Toddler

So today I stumbled upon this wonderfully delicious looking website. One Hungry Mama- the creator is a NY mother of two picky little eatters, who once worked as a creator for cartoons, holds a M.A. in Psychology, and NOW creates yummy meals to share with the world!

So I went out on the whim tonight, and decided I would make her Shrimp Marsala for dinner (with no back up meal for AJ should he choose to NOT want to eat it). And BAM (in my Emeril Lagasse voice)! To my surprise he ate it! I'm thrilled!!!! check out this wonderful wonderful website, and enjoy the tastiness.

Monday, September 12, 2011

"You're not my mommy!"

... That's what I heard soon after walking into Target this afternoon. As I turned I seen a woman scolded two teenagers from a distance, and another pre-teen standing next to her. Of course the first thing that came to mind was "Oh.. she's the stepmom!" lol... See I have like 3 steps moms, godmoms, auntie-moms, grandmoms, and great grandmoms, so I'm used to that phrase"you're not my mom!". SO I laughed it off and kept on looking through the dollar section( my fav!!), however then another set of parents looked over and said "oh you're talking to our kids, I thought you were yelling at yours", they seemed unbothered by the fact that someone else was discplining their children... I was confused?!? Like how is it as a parent you're not bewildered that some COMPLETE stranger just wagged her finger at your children??? I am very particular about people crossing lines of what is acceptable and what isn't, but I am also big on not allowing children to disrespect themselves or an adult.

I guess the question is; when is it ok to allow someone else to discipline your children???

Friday, September 9, 2011

I GOT MY CLOTH DIAPERS

Well I got one of the batches I ordered! I picked up the order from Thanks Mama (in Newton, MA)... Note this is not a retail store but a warehouse setup. I was kind of bummed I wanted to see the size of their wetbags, but because it was packed up they wouldn't open it to show me!!! Not a big deal.

I got the flips, and the Kawaii! Again the flips are a hybrid system- meaning you and change out disposables, and stay-dry cloth inserts. Kawaii I intend to use for bedtime, as they have high ratings.

Here's a link for a video/tutorial on how to change

I also received my sunbabies *note they took over 3 weeks to be delivered- To give them some slack they are being shipped from China. They were the CHEAPEST opitions out there so I patiently awaited their arrival.
REVIEW TIME!!!

Sunbabies (pictured to the left)- You get what you pay for... These are mostly used for day time, Napping, and Bed time are not the best times for usage, as they don't absorb well, and have some leakage problems.

Kawaii- LOVE THEM!!! NO leakage! They stay full through the night, and they're super plush on the inside.

Flips-are great for when we're out, since I just have to bring extra inserts (which I usually take the disposals- depending on where we're going)

I do plan to order a diaper sprayer because dunking poopie diapers in the toilet is NOT fun! lol. I also NEED more Kawaii since both boys are now CD'ing FULL TIME.Now I have 20 Bunbabies, 2 Kawaii's, a 3 flips, and this usually only gets me through 2 days of CD'ing 2 boys... I definitely need more! I don't want to wash every other day, it's exhausting. But on a VERY POSITIVE side AJ's diaper rashes =GONE!!!!!