Friday, December 16, 2011

Being Senistive

... This is a horrible trait I posse. I take everything personal, and get offended when I reach out to people, or attempt to do good for others or go out of my way, to then have it go unappreciated. None the less, this isn't something I necessarily want my boys to see, or pick up on...

How do I teach them to be considerate of others, to love others, and to genuinely care about others, without taking things too personal? I feel like taking things personally makes you easy prey for those predators who try to send you emotional poison, I want my boys to be strong men, but compassionate about others.

AJ is such a gentle giant. The other day we were playing with friends, and his little buddy pushed him, of course AJ cried, but in the same token AJ has done the things like this (more or less to his friend in the past). Perhaps lessons like this will teach AJ "do onto others as you want done to yourself"? OR maybe this will teach him, I'll-get-you-before-you-get-me? I guess we will just figure out how to not over react to others on this journey together.

Thursday, December 15, 2011

Love Goes Into MY babies food.... What's In Yours?

I understand that not everyone has the time OR the desire to spend countless hours slaving over a stove to not only prepare meals for the big people in your family, but then peel, chop, steam, and puree a completely other dish- PHEW! That sounds exhausting.

However let me assure you, it's SUPER EASY!!! And here's some information that will make you second guess shoveling a spoon full of jarred "who-knows-what" into your bundle of joys mouth.

1.Such companies like Gerber replace real food with water and thickening agents in many of their products for children over six months of age. Such adulterated products are nutritionally inferior to products made with more fruits and vegetables. The last time I checked flours and chemically modified starches lack proper, if any nutrition.

2. Baby foods are very high priced compared to similar regular foods. Baby foods cost far more per ounce than fresh vegetables and fruits.

3. Before the age of two baby brains are developing at a rapid rate and the organs are most likely to be sensitive to exposure to the harmful substances found in such baby foods.


Wednesday, December 14, 2011

End Of The Year! End Of the Semester!

Now that I have taken my final exam, and written my last paper- of the semester, I have all this "free time on my hands". However with children you all know that isn't much. None the less I am determined to start a nice and early bed time routine for EVERYONE in my house, including myself. I will make it to the gym at least 4 times a week.. OK that's a little excessive, even with "spare time", I will make it to the gym 3 times a week?? That sounds better. (now to seem a bite more confident on that goal) I WILL MAKE IT! I will begin my mediation I have been dying to do, which I hope will bring me inner peace, and I will finish the 3 books on my night stand that I started reading in July. These are all my new years resolution a little early I guess. But since the New Year isn't here yet I will simply call it my free time resolution.

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

My Little Raindeer

Latin Night @ The Casado Household

Tonight for dinner we're having pork chops (chuletas), fried plantains (tostones), white and beans (arros y frijoles) and green beans.. which of course I don't know this one in Spanish, so we'll just say la green beans, lol.

Any-who I feel it's so important for my children to know both parts of their heritage, rather it's through food, music, arts, movies... whatever way we can teach them about who they are and where they roots trace back to works for my family.

Thursday, December 1, 2011

Barbie Doll by by Marge Piercy

This girlchild was born as usual
and presented dolls that did pee-pee
and miniature GE stoves and irons
and wee lipsticks the color of cherry candy.
Then in the magic of puberty, a classmate said:
You have a great big nose and fat legs.


She was healthy, tested intelligent,
possessed strong arms and back,
abundant sexual drive and manual dexterity.
She went to and fro apologizing.
Everyone saw a fat nose on thick legs.


She was advised to play coy,
exhorted to come on hearty,
exercise, diet, smile and wheedle.
Her good nature wore out
like a fan belt.
So she cut off her nose and her legs
and offered them up.
In the casket displayed on satin she lay
with the undertaker's cosmetics painted on,
a turned-up putty nose,
dressed in a pink and white nightie.
Doesn't she look pretty? everyone said.
Consummation at last.
To every woman a happy ending. 

 

This poem is a beautifully written one! Rather frustrating, and true. As a mother to 2 boys I do and will continue to make it an effort to encourage self admiration, and to appreciate the beauty of everyone and everything around us. Children grasp these important lessons early on, which is why it's important to expose them to different cultures, different shades of skin, different creed of women, men, and children. It is also important for my boys to know how strong and important women and men are alike.

I think it's not only up to mother's of daughters to deter this vicious cycle from repeating, but also mothers of sons. 

this was a nice video accompanying the poem